I’ve received numerous messages and comments on my Instagram and Snapchat over the last year or so saying how happy I look. Obviously I’m not skipping around 24/7… but I’d say I come pretty close!
I haven’t always been though. Those of you who have been following me for a while will know that I had an eating disorder in high school and that last year I separated from my husband of 6 years – some pretty shitty times. I’ve struggled with self confidence issues, anxiety, and probably even minor depression.
I have learnt so much about myself over the last year and thought I would share what has made a huge difference to my mental health and my overall happiness.
Do more of what you love
It kinda makes sense right!? The more you do what you love the happier you will be. I’m lucky in that I was able to make a career out of what I love so I am literally doing what I love every single day! What you love might not translate into a career, but you still need to make time for it – often. Love your coffee? Make time to sit at a cafe every morning to enjoy your coffee with some downtime. Enjoy sewing? Have a project on the go and allocate half an hour every night to it. Like to travel? Work hard, save, and book a trip. Find what you love, and do it. Simple!
Stop making excuses
They are just that, excuses – and nothing more than bullshit. Sorry for the bluntness, but it’s true. Stop making excuses and start making a plan. Don’t wait until Monday because it’s a new week. Start now!
Don’t be a scardy cat
I was absolutely terrified to quit my well paying, full time corporate job for a career in pilates. I ummed and ahhhhed about it for weeks, couldn’t sleep, and turned into a nervous wreck before asking myself what the worst possible outcome of my decision would be. Once I established what this was, I asked myself whether I could live with my decision based on this outcome. I was, so I just did it! I’ve used this technique many times since then. You have to actually DO things and not just THINK about them to improve your life and your happiness.
Let go of past relationships
Out of sight, out of mind. Have a cry, then unfollow them on social media, stop stalking them, stop calling them, and move on. Be ok with the fact that every relationship isn’t forever, and that every relationship serves its purpose.
Surround yourself with love
I have the most amazing people in my life and they make such a difference to my happiness. Get rid of the hate, jealousy and negativity and surround yourself with positivity, love and support.
Stop worrying about the future
Money, marriage, house, career – god, It’s all so stressful! It’s good to think about these things but stop stressing. Let go of the things you can’t control and make plans for things you can. Once you’ve set your plan, work hard and have fun. Stop overthinking and stressing and just enjoy life.
Make goals and do stuff
Make lists of things you want to do and tick them off. Don’t sit at home on a Saturday looking at Facebook and Instagram every 5 seconds. Go out and do stuff even if you’re doing them alone. Keep busy living.
Learn to be comfortable in your own skin
One of my favourite quotes: "You know when you stare at a word for so long it starts to not look like a word anymore, like something is wrong with it? I think this is the same thing girls do to their bodies". Stop hating on yourself. In the end beauty fades so work hard on your health in all aspects – body mind and spirit.
Deal with things immediately
I used to always put on a strong front when I was hurting inside. I would convince myself I was ok until all the bottled up emotions brimmed over and I broke down. Try not to bottle things up. Talk about your feelings even if you don’t know what you’re feeling – nut them out with a friend. It’s much easier to deal with things one at a time then all at once (speaking from experience!)
Ok wow – that’s a lot of learnings haha. If you have any pearls of wisdom you would like to add please comment below.
Love and laughs